Podcast Episode 50 – Be Intentional, Simplify, and Love

Let's get healthy in a good way

In today’s episode, let’s be intentional about putting to practice all the things we’ve learned and discussed during these last 50 episodes. Let focus on being intentional about what we are doing and how we are doing it, by simplifying things and doing them with love.

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[00:00:00] I want people to see my shirt, but you can't. It's the inhale exhale. We need to do this or that.
[00:00:06] That's a good way to start. Let's exhale. Wow. We made it to episode 50, right? Wow. Wow. Is right. 50 episodes. I'm excited. Yeah. So this is kind of like our celebration episode. So we welcome you all to today. Uh, this has been a wonderful journey for me and I hope you too, Patryce? It has, it's been enlightening.
[00:00:39] And even through the challenges, this has been something I've looked forward to every week and actually a lot of good feedback from my own family. So, they've been able to tune in even my young adults so that I think it's good for our family too. So that's good. Great. I mean, I think I've learned a lot.
[00:00:57] I mean, there are things we're learning right along the way. Yeah. So, uh, you never know at all, you just continue to learn and continue to try and improve and, and just build up on your knowledge and, you know, try to implement new things and one step at a time, right? One step at a time. So that's another reason this has been encouraging because it encourages me to keep going.
[00:01:24] And sharing, . Okay. So what are we doing today? What are we talking about? Wow. Well, I think we decided to talk about how do we just summarize or hone in on some takeaways. And so I think we, we settled on three takeaways. I-S-L. So intentionality isthe "I", and simplifyis the "S", and "L" is for love.
[00:01:54] So we can start by talking about what do we mean about being intentional? What should we be intentional about? And, um, well, let's start with how we think, how we eat. And how we move, which really means exercise . So let's be more intentional about these three things in particular. And regarding how we think, uh, listeners can tune in to our last podcast podcast, 49 to get more detailed about just how important our thought life is. And to be intentional, to be disciplined about our thought life, especially when we have toxic thoughts. So they can tune into that to get more detailed about our thought life and, and how , doing things like, um practicing affirmations, positive affirmations, prayer, and journaling. These are just a couple of things that we talk about more and episode number 49. And then also we talked about eating in many of our episodes because we are all about encouraging more of a plant-based diet.
[00:03:07] And so one thing I'm always bringing up. You're right there with me I think the importance of reading our labels. Be intentional when we're purchasing food or just whatever we're putting into our bodies. Let us read the labels. Label reading it's a good start, a good start. And I think to that end, we can read labels, but when you're making food yourself or preparing your own food, you don't have to read as much, you know, more about what you're putting into your body in some ways. And maybe you can talk to that more.
[00:03:44] I think the most important thing to do is to eat the colorful fruits and vegetables. So the most important thing to do is just to eat them. You know, go shopping for them, pick something that looks fresh and pretty, um, fresh is the goal.
[00:04:07] That's key. That's something that I think that a lot of people miss out on their diet is fruits and vegetables and especially vegetables and probably especially like leafy greens and maybe like, um, like, uh, Bell peppers, you know, the bright pops of color. We just need a rainbow of colors on our plate or throughout the day, you know, that's the big thing.
[00:04:36] If you're not preparing any now just start with preparing some meals right now. That's a really good way to begin. Um, I know that for me, most of the label reading involves like maybe pasta. You want whole grain, pasta, that's the goal. Also whole grain rices . When I'm thinking about reading labels, I'm thinking about is this a whole grain product?
[00:05:03] I guess, nuts seeds, things like that. We want them to just be nuts, seeds, and basic ingredients. No added oils, no added sugar, things like that. So those are the kinds of things that I buy that may have labels on them. But other than that, I'm really. Focusing on the produce section where I'm just buying fresh food.
[00:05:27] You know, sometimes it's organic. Sometimes it's not. Our recent episodes, we have links there about the clean 15 and the dirty dozen, you know, maybe those that you may want to avoid. Uh, if they're not organic, but remember organic is not always possible. There's lots of foods still available that you can buy that don't have to be organic, but can really boost up your, um, your nutrient levels.
[00:05:56] So, yeah. The goal is to prepare more foods at home. Okay. Start with basic ingredients and you will just be amazed at the flavors that you can get out of basic ingredients. Sometimes we take little shortcuts using a sauce or whatever. On the website, there's also many dressing recipes that are oil-free and just tasty recipes that you can do by adding, you know, your own spices, such as ginger and garlic and, you know, salt, pepper, fresh garlic, you know, or powdered or whatever.
[00:06:37] We're going to switch over to once a month podcasts so that we can bring more, um, recipes to you. Okay, that's fun. That's going to be a lot of fun.
[00:06:49] I love that you talked about just preparing at home, how we can be intentional about that. And we understand people are very busy and there are times when you do buy packaged foods. And that's why we did start with a reminder to read the labels and as long as you can pronounce all the words, that's a good start too, on these labels.
[00:07:08] But to ultimately just start with whole foods, whole foods. Start in the produce section and stay there and do the outer edges maybe not as much. And because you're in the produce section, like you've said, Shonda, we're preparing at home foods that should reflect the rainbow. Because the more colors, the more nutrient dense our meals will be. And I'm just, as you were speaking, I was just thinking about the fact that we have orange potatoes and yellow, white potatoes. We have dark green leafy vegetables, spinach and kale. But then we also have the carrots which are orange, and then we have the bell peppers, green, yellow, orange, and the list goes on with how many colors of the rainbow that we can find in our produce section of the grocery store.
[00:08:01] Were also, you know, reminded that, uh, moving, just moving. We need to be intentional about that. And I can just be, I'm just gonna put it out there.
[00:08:11] I'm not one of those people. Who's like, oh, I'm looking forward to working out today. And I'm an hour at the gym. No, I'm just not. And there are people like that where they are looking forward to their run or jog. More power to you. That's awesome. But if you're not that way, that's okay. That's okay. Just start from where you are.
[00:08:31] Maybe it's just walking on a regular basis or stretching. You've talked about that so often. How simply stretching is a plus that's very important and, um, just so many things we can do to move. And I think we've talked about also, uh, just being more active in your day. Making sure that whether you work outside the home or, or don't, you can be intentional and take breaks.
[00:09:00] I know people who work at a desk, there is nothing wrong with once an hour, you get up, you stretch your legs, you go walk around or you meet some of the people that you might just make a phone call to in your office. Just go say, Hey, can I meet you at your desk? Or. What have you, uh, and if you're at home, there's certainly opportunities in and outside of our homes doing some work around there. Cooking, preparing these wonderful meals we're just talking about and then being in our gardens or just being outside.
[00:09:29] Yeah. Yeah. Those are all really good reminders. And I thought about, you know, the purpose of stretching is kind of like to relieve muscle tension. It really relieves muscle tension, especially if you're sitting at a desk , it's really important to stretch those shoulders and things like that.
[00:09:49] So, you know, just Google it and see what the best exercises are and just do a few. And another thing you talked about yard work. Yeah. I like to do exercises that produce something. So I do like walking, walking is relaxing, so that produces relaxation. Right. But also I like to cut the grass, you know?
[00:10:12] Um, I have a push mower. And if it doesn't get too high, it's pretty easy to use. And I'm not calling it, you know, my exercise thing, but it is exercise. Yeah. Do you know? So that's just something don't, don't discount your yard work and things like that.
[00:10:31] That is your exercise. So keep doing it. So true. I've been pulling weeds lately with all the rain. We have plenty of weeds. I felt some muscle aches because I think you use different muscles when you're doing the weed pulling than I do, maybe when I'm walking. So that's a great, great reminder, Shonda that we shouldn't discount the exercise we received by doing yard work.
[00:10:55] Yeah. Awesome. so I get the big message is to be intentional about how we're living out our daily lives. And those are just some of the things we wanted to hone in on. And then we also wanted to talk about simplifying life.
[00:11:13] That's important too, right? That can release stress. It means, for example, just let's keep it simple as much as we can and, and start doing it today. Don't delay at looking at opportunities on how to simplify our daily lives.
[00:11:30] There was a TV show. I think it is called unplugged nation. It may not be going on anymore, but anyway, it was a reality TV show where families felt that their lives were too busy actually. And often they had children, um, different ages, but they wanted to unplug.
[00:11:48] So whether they were living in a city or not, they had the computers going on. They had the cell phones going on. They had working all the time and they, they said they wanted to unplug from technology. So the reality show would have these families check out a couple of properties and pick one.
[00:12:06] And sometimes it was a whole farm that they would have to run and other things. And although they may not have ended up living that way every day after that, they always said they learned so much about how their quality of life could be better if they slow down some. Simplify.
[00:12:27] I remember it was a while back. We didn't have power due to a hurricane and, uh, it was like 12 days. I so enjoyed that. But just being able to be with your own thoughts, I think is important in a person's day, you know, we do so many things and we have a quick thought here, but we don't really take time to process our thoughts. So I think taking time in the day, and I think it's good in the middle of the day. You know, you can do this in the beginning. You can do this at the end of the day, but there's like part of your time out in the middle of the day just like taking a stretch or a walk, you know, to process your thoughts.
[00:13:12] Hmm, to not just wait to do it at the end of the day or just when we begin our day, that way, but throughout the day, to be intentional, to process our thoughts to be present. To be present in the moment. That I think lends itself to simplifying our lives. That's great. And yeah, I think you also had some other tips here about maybe incorporating routines.
[00:13:38] Uh, that's another way to simplify our lives. Right? And going back to how you shared about planning or making our own food at home or meals. Well, let's simplify that process by planning. If we plan it, it won't seem so overwhelming, you know, to, to do that. Right um, so yeah, if you have something that must be a part of your routine, ask yourself, how can I simplify this? You know, what steps can I make to make this an easier task on myself? And so what can I do in my kitchen to make cooking easier? You know, it may be, uh, you have to declutter the kitchen, you know, maybe there's just, maybe you have too many pots and pans.
[00:14:27] You know, just sitting out and you just, you need, you need a focus space. I think, you know, being more intentional about being focused, you know, for what you're doing. So you're not distracted, you know, maybe put the phone down or turn it on some music, you know, while you're cooking or something, you know, what can you do to put yourself in a more relaxed state when you're cooking?
[00:14:52] You know, um, give love to your food, you know, and it'll taste better than a rushed meal, you know? Um, Um, I like that tip about de-cluttering and just organizing your kitchen in a way that works well for you. If you're the main person preparing these meals, how does that look for you? And if that means organizing the refrigerator and the pantry once a month, or just have a system to lend itself to you, not being stressed about preparing these meals.
[00:15:24] And again, um, I'm not as good as you use Shonda. I do buy more things, but even, yeah. Like I'll buy vegetables for example. And especially during holidays, instead of going to the beauty shop or whatever, I will spend that money on getting chopped vegetables already. Especially when I'm going to have a large group of people and I have so much going on already. There's just three or so vegetables that take a little more time .So I can decide, well, those are the things I'm going to have already chopped up for me. Uh, just whatever it takes to simplify your life and help to minimize stress.
[00:16:03] Yeah. Sometimes you have a lot of time to cut vegetables. Sometimes you don't. It can be relaxing, it can be stressful. It depends on where we are in our life or each day changes. Each day changes and allow it to change and just go with the flow and work with what you have.
[00:16:24] Right. So, yeah. And so decluttering still is in my mind, you know, about the kitchen, maybe the stacks of paper, you know, maybe in the kitchen, you know, cover them up, move them to the side where you can't see them while you cooking. So you can focus on what you're doing. Um, we talked about the mind being decluttered, you know, uh, thinking about that and, and, um, I did have to put in the finance part.
[00:16:53] I know we don't talk about that much here. But that's just part of simplifying our life. So we're wanting to talk about the real food and drinks lifestyle, you know, we want to encompass every part of living. That may be something that's that's causing issues.
[00:17:10] , if finances get in the way of eating a healthy diet, we need to create a video on how to eat on a budget. How's that? I think that's a great idea. Seriously. Yeah. We have to put that on the to-do list. You because I hear so many people say, oh, it's too expensive to eat healthy.
[00:17:31] And my husband who is into finance he even suggested that we do that. Because that would be yet another thing he can incorporate when he's talking to people about their financial planning. So, yeah, we just don't want you to not think about your finances when you're simplifying your life.
[00:17:47] That's you know. Major impact on who we are, how we live our life. I think you mentioned was taking inventory of how we spend our time. So that can mean a lot of things, but let's just be honest. We have a lot of distractions in 2021, and I don't think that those distractions are just going to go away with each coming year.
[00:18:12] We have phones, we have the TV, we have the radio. We have our own thoughts. And I liked what you said earlier about not just doing something in the beginning and the end of the day, those are fine time to do things, but to take inventory of even how we're spending our time throughout the day, that's a healthy, healthy exercise too.
[00:18:31] Yeah. To ask ourselves, is there something more important than I should be doing right now? . Yeah. Focus, prioritize. Make a list. A simple list, but just make a list. Yeah, I like it. I like it.
[00:18:45] And then what was the, oh, the third thing we were going to focus on is love. Right?
[00:18:52] And, uh, let's start with let's love more. Okay. Starting with ourselves. I think we take that for granted that it's understood that we should love ourselves. But honestly, I don't think everyone's there. So that's okay. If that's something you need to work on then work on it. And the reason why it's so important is if we learn to love ourselves, well, we'll be able to love others better. Yeah. So what does that really look like? Learning to love ourselves. What are some ideas? So, yeah. Um, some things that I thought about when you were talking about it is there's two different things. There's like, maybe we're not loving ourselves in our mind.
[00:19:45] Like we talked about the negative thoughts back in episode 49, you know. We're talking down to ourselves, you know? So that is something that we can think about. So go back to episode 49, if you need a reminder there. We can love ourselves better through our thoughts. I thought of that too.
[00:20:04] When you just asked that good question. It starting with our own positive thought life, hopefully versus having negative self-talking thought. Right. That's good. And then I thought about like, Taking time for relaxation, like give yourself a foot rub, you know, if you need it, or, hands or shoulders or whatever.
[00:20:29] I mean, those are just some areas that tend to hold tension and we can, you know, love ourselves by giving ourselves some massages. Take time out to to help your body. To take care of, of ourselves. And that just quickly reminds me of on the airplane when they say in case of emergency, even if you have a child next to you, make sure you put the mask over your own face before you try to help your child. And it's the same thing we need to take time. I love the idea though, of massaging ourselves or even I'm like rubbing my own back or the pat my back, these little things. Or just tell yourself," I love you." There's nothing wrong with that. Standing in front of the mirror and saying, "I love you."
[00:21:20] And just reciting positive affirmations can be very uplifting. And like you said, I think you mentioned music earlier, different things that, you know, might bring you joy or do bring you joy. Practice them. So, yeah, so that allows us to pour love out to others when we're recharged. Right?
[00:21:41] And we're feeling great and relaxed. So then we're not all frazzled and worried about this, worried about that. We're in a better state and we can love on others. Yes, we're more accessible and we're in a better mood. I honestly, and I, I hate to say it. One thing I can work on is loving myself by getting proper sleep because if we get enough sleep, then we'll be more patient. Hopefully we'll be more patient so that we can love other people.
[00:22:12] Which leads me into something you brought up... how can we show other people love? And one way is through volunteering. Yeah, that's a great way.
[00:22:21] I've even known, um, friends or family where maybe it's been a really hard time in their lives. They've lost a job or, or there's just different situations that can happen. But then even in the midst of those challenging times, that's when they were intentional about volunteering. And they said they were so blessed by that.
[00:22:40] I mean, I, I love that you brought up volunteering and, and there's no shortage of where to volunteer. You just have to be intentional to seek out opportunities. Yeah, there's always an opportunity to volunteer. Right. And it's so good like we said, take care of yourself, but you know, to sometimes take the focus off yourself, especially, you know, when something is not going your way or whatever to switch over into serving someone else is a good way to get over
[00:23:11] whatever you think may not be going well for you that day. So you're serving yourself and serving others at the same time. Win, Win! Yes. Excellent. Thank you. That's good.
[00:23:25] Is there anything else? Um, the last one was to, uh, encourage others to love themselves. You know, like we're hoping to encourage everyone to, love yourself
[00:23:37] you know, by doing all these things and implementing these ideas. And then in turn you get filled up and then it pours out. Yes, it's so good. And well, I can't help but bring up, but we're loving ourselves also by looking at what we're putting in our bodies...Being intentional.
[00:23:58] And that's why we're all about our plant based suggested to empower our bodies. To fuel them up in the best way we can. Yeah. No, that's all good stuff. What else did we have for today?
[00:24:14] Well, today was just like a summary. You know, we just wanted to celebrate, this is our celebration episode for episode 50. And now we just want to remind you of some changes that are coming. You know, I think we've mentioned it a couple of times, but, that we're going to start re releasing it once a month only, which will be the first Wednesday of each month.
[00:24:41] Right. And the other weeks, and Patryce I'm hoping you're doing me in some of these, we want to bring, helpful recipes to you and food prep ideas on the YouTube channel. So it's not going to be like you don't hear from us for another month. They're going to be other ways that you'll be hearing from us.
[00:25:06] So stay tuned. The best way to be in touch is to become a subscriber on the YouTube channel. Yeah. In the show notes, there's a link. If you're not already watching through YouTube, there's a link to become a subscriber. Please subscribe to the YouTube channel.
[00:25:27] When we reach 1000 subscribers, we'll get a community tab and that's going to allow us to communicate more easily with you and we can chat back and forth on that community tab. So we need you to tell everyone, you know, to become a subscriber to The Real Food and Drinks YouTube channel. And that will just put more things in motion for us.
[00:25:55] Yeah. Yes. We thought it would be fun to put out there a challenge for everyone listening to us. And, and of course we hope that you will tell other people about us. But the challenge is that you share any comment or feedback about any of the subjects that we've touched on, or even a comment that, Hey, I've enjoyed some of your podcasts, but I really wish he had talked about this too. Or just somewhere you felt like this helped, or this is something I'd like to hear more about, or just any communication we get from you we want to put into a drawing. And then we're going to draw, three names and we will be sending a surprise gift to encourage you on your journey of living your best life. , Hopefully more of a plant-based incorporated life, but living your best life. So we hope that our gifts will just be an incentive to continue making changes in a healthy way.
[00:26:53] So we're challenging everyone to just communicate with us, send us a form of communication and we'll put you in the drawing for that fun gift. Yeah. I think we'll do one per week for the, for the month of September. Yep. Once per week. So get the word out there everyone. Get the word out. Anything you wanted to add to that? No, that's all good. Okay. Sounds good. I'm excited. I'm looking forward to all the comments and input and feedback that we get and I'm sending out these fun prizes
[00:27:32] . So have a good day, everyone. Good week we look forward to hearing from you. Go to the show notes. Yes. Everything Shonda said. Bye.

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Podcast Episode 25 – Got Stress? Let’s Deal With It


In Episodes 21 thru 23, we discussed tips from Stormie Omartian’s book, “Greater Health God’s Way’ about how making simple food choices can become healthy food goals. Yet, today, we thought it just as important to discuss stress and how stress can affect our healthy goals overall. We also talk about what we can do about stress. Many of these points come from Chapter 1 which is titled “Peaceful LIving”.

We want to come alongside you, as well, as we all continue moving toward a positive direction to support our healthy lifestyles. If there are any specific ways that we can be of assistance, please contact us through our contact form or send a verbal message through Speakpipe.

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“Greater Health God’s Way” by Stormie Omartian

Stormie’s book is a great overview of how to live in a healthful way. The last copy of the book was published in 1996, yet the information is still very relevant to today. She explains 7 steps to greater health: 1. Peaceful LIving 2. Pure Food 3. Proper Exercise 4. Plenty of Water 5. Prayer and Fasting 6. Periods of Fresh Air and Sunlight and 7. Perfect Rest.

We will definitely be discussing more areas of this book in addition to completing the 15 helpful hints/tips for making food choices in upcoming podcasts.

See Stormie Omartian’s Book Greater Health God’s Way: Seven Steps to Inner and Outer Beauty (on AMAZON).

More Resources:

Episode 1 – COVID-19 and Stress

De-stress, Dealing with Stress (Covid-19 Pandemic)

A Healthier Lifestyle

The Need for Exercise

Plant-based “Simple” Recipes:

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[00:00:00] In episodes 21 to 23, we discuss tips from Stormie Omartian's book, Greater Health, God's Way, about how making simple food choices can become healthy food goals. Yet today, we thought it just as important to discuss stress and how stress can affect our healthy goals. Overall, we also talk about what we can do about stress.
[00:00:37] Hi, and hello. Welcome to the Real Food and Drinks Lifestyle Podcast. We're building a community to talk about nutrition, lifestyle choices, and just feeling better. This is Shonda and this is Patryce. Let's just be real.
[00:01:04] Disclaimer, we do not professionally practice in any of the various subjects that we discuss. We are only sharing our personal experiences with you to a healthier lifestyle. Please do your own research before taking part in any of these practices.
[00:01:21] Patryce: Well, I just thought it was interesting during our last podcast, we talked about healthy habits that were offered by Stormie, and it was interesting how she did end all that, uh, talking about stress.
[00:01:35] Shonda: Right.
[00:01:36] Patryce: And how important it is to identify stress and minimize stress.
[00:01:42] Shonda: So I remember my food journey is like, okay, I'm doing all this stuff. Right. I got the right food. And, but now it's causing stress. Even when I became assured that, okay, yeah, I've got this down. I'm doing a good job. I saw it was still something missing and I knew it and that may have just been God telling me, Hey, you're not done yet. And you have to deal with stress. So I, I did recognize that. I went for food first, but then, you know, soon after I discovered it's not all about food, because like she says, "do all the food and exercise properly but if stress is there", I mean, that's, that's the big thing that we have to be concerned about.
[00:02:22] Patryce: Exactly. We could be doing all this in vain if we're not managing stress. Because like it's been documented that 90 plus percent of all illnesses are related to stress. And even if the cause of these illnesses is not stress certainly stress will worsen any illness we have.
[00:02:46] Shonda: Right. Exactly. Um, that's a good thing, but that is key, but I also don't want to diminish the role of food and exercise in there, because if we're, there are two things. If we're improperly eating, that's a stressor on our body. And if we're in properly exercising, that's another stressor. You know, whether we're not exercising that's stress or, you know, causing our body to have to pump more and harder, because you know, we're not circulating our blood or we can over-exercise and cause stress too. So that's just something I wanted to mention there. I think most of us do recognize the general feelings of being stressed. You know, we, we were irritable, just frustrated. Maybe we can't think straight. You know, low tolerance of, of life events, you know, just, I mean like the day to day life events, you know, that that's a signal that we're in a stressed state.
[00:03:48] Um, because I have thoughts of remembering I'm feeling stressed, but I can't pinpoint what this stress is. What is around me that's causing stress? If you look at my life from the outside in it's like, okay, what, what's it going on? There's nothing going on to be causing this stressful feeling, so then I realize, okay, this is coming from myself.
[00:04:12] You know, it's coming from my thoughts about day-to-day work or, oh, I have too much to do or, you know, uh, the floor isn't clean or something. I mean just causing my own stress in my own mind.
[00:04:27] Patryce: And I guess it also goes back to knowing yourself and knowing your body. Knowing your body, your mind, your body, you know, uh, so that you can identify, uh, signs of stress. Because she has a lot in here, but she also pointed out that everything we do produces some stress.
[00:04:48] So that's why not only knowing the signs of stress, but realizing there are two kinds of stress, right? Hm. Talk about positive and negative stress because the point being made that we do have both, because anything can cause stress, but is it negative stress or is it positive stress? Because the negative stress is what we've got to, to minimize and really identify the signs of, whereas the positive stress, we may not realize as much the signs of it because it could even spur us onto to do a better job at something. Right?
[00:05:26] Right. I mean, yeah. Okay. So we're, we're talking about there's positive stress, but I think negative stress is the one that, um, we need to take note of more so, because you know, these are things that start physical ailments, you know, not just I'm feeling stress, but they start, you know, like high blood pressure, stomach problems, ulcers, heart disease and cancer. If we are really overloaded with stress, these are the outcomes of stress on our bodies. Our bodies start to break down.
[00:06:00] Okay. Well, yes, you're right. And so I guess focusing on the signs of stress so that we can identify when we're getting stressed is that...?
[00:06:10]Shonda: We need to recognize stress in our lives before it gets serious and take specific steps to alleviate it.
[00:06:17] So before we get to hypertension, blood pressure, heart disease, ulcers, we want to tackle it right there. You know, it's time today. Let's just start. You know, no matter where we are, if we're experiencing these things or we're not experiencing them yet, let's get proactive in this at no matter what stage we at, no matter what age we're at, let's just start working on alleviating stress.
[00:06:43] So those were the signs of stress and things like that. But yeah, there are different sources of stress. And so we can break those further down. You know, there's environment, poor diet, lack of exercise and our attitude, which I touched on just a little bit ago, but you know, we can talk about the environment.
[00:07:02] Patryce: For sure, for sure.
[00:07:04] We, we, we live in such a fast paced and honestly, very polluted environment in many ways. And I'm not just talking about chemical pollution. We also have noise pollution. Okay. We're overloaded with that. And just, um, so many ways, too much noise pollution, too many people, traffic, um, competition. It's all can add up and, and not be good for our body and mind.
[00:07:33] Shonda: Yeah. That's what I was thinking. I really thought you were about to say people pollution, you know, that just kind of reminds me of someone who, you know, may bring a lot of negativity, you know,
[00:07:44] Patryce: Toxic people, toxic, and that's a real issue. And, uh, it is a real source of, of stress.
[00:07:52] Shonda: Yeah. For many, for sure. Yeah. So, uh, poor diet.
[00:07:56] We want to eat real food. Food that's vibrant, full of life, and comes straight from the ground as much as possible. And, you know, fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, legumes, whole grains.
[00:08:10]Patryce: All the GBOMBS,
[00:08:11] Shonda: Right. Because you know, all the other foods are stressors. They're just pulling us down. It's taking more energy to digest these foods that in return are given us nothing.
[00:08:21] Patryce: That's true. Nothing on your return for sure. So yeah. Poor diet can be definitely a source of stress. And then, um, coupled with that is a lack of exercising.
[00:08:32] Shonda: I like to remind people that we're not talking about beat yourself up exercise, you know, panting, running, you're out of breath. I'm just talking about a simple walk for 20 minutes a day.
[00:08:44] Patryce: That's a very good point. It's not that we're saying there's a certain type of exercise. We're just saying find, find some type of exercise and do it on a regular basis.
[00:08:56] Shonda: And exercise can be fun. You know, it can be fun. Uh, whether you like playing a sport with someone or a walk or dancing, uh, yardwork.
[00:09:07] Patryce: That's a good one yardwork. Because I think you were just outside earlier and going along with exercising, complementing any exercise with the sunlight. Yeah, that's great.
[00:09:17] Shonda: That's a good point. Sunlight. While we're outdoors. So let's try to exercise outdoors. Yeah. And I like to get a return on my, um, exercise. So that's why I do yard work. But I mean, we're getting a return, but I get a double return. Let's just say that.
[00:09:34]Patryce: Interest
[00:09:35] Shonda: Oouuh, triple return out in the sun, I'm getting work done, and my body's benefiting just from movement.
[00:09:41] Patryce: Ding, ding, ding!
[00:09:43] Shonda: Okay. Any other form of exercise you enjoy?
[00:09:47] Patryce: I haven't really pursued yoga, but I know you have, and I've heard more and more people talk about the benefits they have found to practicing yoga and something called Tai Chi.
[00:09:58] So again, it doesn't have to be, like you said, the type of exercise, always where you're panting or super aerobic, not to say that that's not good exercise, but if that is not the form that you take to well, then there are other options out there.
[00:10:12] Shonda: And so we're back to our attitude. I've already talked about my attitude. I had to learn that. I really did have to learn that my attitude was a source of stress. I mean, you, you can really lift yourself up out of that. You can really choose, choose your attitude and you will start to feel better automatically. Okay. That's my little input there and I believe in it and I've seen it happen in my own life.
[00:10:40] Patryce: I totally agree.
[00:10:42] And this is silly, but I I've even told, been known them to tell people my kids, myself, that if you're not in necessarily good mood or you need to call someone, you have a difficult conversation or need to break the ice, smile. Even if no one sees you when you're smiling and you're speaking, it will come through more, in a more positive light than just frowning.
[00:11:08] And it's all about positive. You know, seeing the glass half full. Versus half empty. I know it's a cliche, but it's true. Something I'll just read straight from Stormie's book, it says, "we have already said that it's not so much what is happening to you. It's not so much your, what your circumstances [are] but your reaction to your circumstances that make a difference."
[00:11:31] Shonda: Yes. Our reaction, taking control, watching our attitude, watching what our thoughts are.
[00:11:39] Patryce: Definitely our thought life is so important. And so, um, that's another thing we can't minimize is our thought life leads a lot to...to a lot of the stress. Yeah.
[00:11:54] You mentioned how we need to be proactive about managing and minimizing our stress.
[00:11:59] And I can't agree with you more because more and more people at a younger age, even our children are reporting that they are stressed. Elementary age.
[00:12:11] Shonda: Yeah, it's so true. And I, and I have to say that we as parents play a role in that, you know, I have played a role I know in some of the attitudes that I've seen in my children and their stress.
[00:12:23] And so now that I know better, you know, they're, they're adults and, you know, they were young teenagers. I mean, I have tried to display a different attitude for them so that they can learn that that behavior is learned and that behavior can be changed.
[00:12:40] Patryce: It can be changed. I love how you... you just made that statement. That behavior can be changed. Because so often you hear someone saying, well, that's just how I am. Well, no, maybe that's how you are now. That doesn't mean you have to always be that way.
[00:12:58] Shonda: So there's two choices, right, in dealing with stress? Uh, We can do something to change the situation, or we can be content with whatever circumstances there are and that's Philippians 4: 11 and decide to accept it and move on. Or what, what do you think?
[00:13:18] Patryce: Wow. I think similar to what you were just saying, we can choose to embrace our stress or choose to minimize it.
[00:13:33] Shonda: Yeah. I mean, uh things, examples are just coming to my mind, like, okay, I'm stressed out in the morning because I'm driving to work and there's so much traffic and I'm late and you know, all these different things.
[00:13:47] Well, so what can we do?
[00:13:50]Patryce: Change our attitude? I was in that situation, Shonda, my commute went from 35 minutes to maybe an hour and 10 minutes on a rainy day. And so I loved to listen to books. So I used to get audio... the CDs...books on, on tape back then, or books on CDs, audio books. And I found my attitude changed.
[00:14:13] And then also the type of music. I know at one point, yeah, much younger in life, I just, whatever the latest was, or I just went with whatever genre and, and nothing to say, we all have different preferences, but I've just found it ,to me, listening to praise and worship music regularly helps change my mood. I'm meditating on the Lord.
[00:14:36] Shonda: Yeah. Um, so you took the steps to change your attitude, to do something good with the time that you were spending there, you know, so you wouldn't feel like you're wasting your time. And I mean, of course, yeah we could get up earlier so that we won't feel stressed when we're, you know, that close. Like, oh man, I'm like running 10 minutes late, you know, because there was a stalled car or something like that. So we can decide to make room for dealing with stress. We can change situations. There's things we can do. I mean, so...
[00:15:12] Patryce: That's a very good point too. You can change the situation. And I know it may seem radical, but I changed to the point where I did not work outside the home for a given period of time, because the jobs, they took such a long commute. They involved such a long commute that it was do I want to complain and continue to be late picking up my kids, even though I'm leaving earlier and earlier for work? Or do I want to make a change? We can look as a family to see what can I do. Can I get a job closer to home? Or if it's, if we're in a position, I just stay at home and I'm able to do all those things for the kids at school. Um, we may cut back on some other things, but long-term, I am so thankful that at that time we made that choice.
[00:15:54] Shonda: And it sounds like that was a good choice. So, um, Stormie also talks about ways to deal with stress. The first thing she says is make a list of your stress sources. Like, do we ever think about that to sit down and say, okay, what's stressing me out? You know, and write it down and look at it and, you know, start to analyze our life.
[00:16:17] Right? That's being proactive. Let's see what we can do about these things. And so that would be one, you know, Uh, the morning commute is really stressing me out. I mean, that would be something you put on your list, you know.
[00:16:30] Patryce: I love the list idea. I never thought about doing that. It's like you just find yourself stressed and complaining, but why not sit in the beginning, be intentional and make that list? I loved that.
[00:16:42] Shonda: Yeah. The next thing she, uh, suggests is, um, well look at that list and is there anything that can be changed to alleviate the problem? And if so, take those steps immediately. Get that stress out of there.
[00:16:55] Patryce: I ended my job assignment.
[00:16:58] Shonda: So the last thing it says is if you can't change the situation, do some thinking and research about how you can fortify yourself mentally and emotionally to survive the stress in your life.
[00:17:10] Patryce: I love that point because you may be a single parent. Um, and you need that job. For right now that is the job you have. So good advice.
[00:17:21] Shonda: So, yeah, I mean, just taking that example. That's the job I have. So you begin to appreciate that job instead of thinking about it's a stress and you change other areas of your life around the job so that it won't be such a stressor. You know, find some help from family maybe that can help pick up kids.
[00:17:42] Or do something different. Like if you're late, you know, maybe have a plan for a quick and easy meal, you know, involve the kids, you know, maybe ya'll do something different. You know, don't let that stress enter your life. Let's make it fun. Let's go, okay this is a late night let's have a taco bar or something. Have a plan. Yeah. And have a backup plan for when the day doesn't go right and the evening meal comes in. And you know, I'm always thinking about food or I always want to help with food.
[00:18:15] So, you know, we, we can decide how we're going to look at the things, the stressors in our life. What can we learn from them? How can we change our attitudes? What can we do about it? And you know, of course, when all else I'm not going to say fails, but let's put it in alignment with prayer.
[00:18:35] You know, let's pray about it. Prayer brings wisdom, peace, and a strong mind. And that's exactly what we need when we're stressed.
[00:18:43] Patryce: And who doesn't want all of that? So next time, let's focus on prayer, the power of prayer.
[00:18:50] Shonda: For our life, stress, exercise, everything
[00:18:55] Patryce: For everything. We certainly can. So let's talk more about that in our next podcast.
[00:19:00] Shonda: Sounds like a plan. We'll see you all next time.
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